‘It’s all too much!’
‘I don’t know where to start!’
I’ve been reading about stress and how to deal with it.
It’s so common.
Many of my clients have told me …
- I think I’m hopeless.
- My life is one big muddle.
- I wake up everyday with a headache.
- I’m overwhelmed.
I tell them: ‘You must rock the boat!’
Dr Phil writes in his book ‘Life Strategies’ that we are all accountable for what happens to us. And, yes! He’s talking about you too!
Here’s the thing …
You are not a victim.
So what’s the solution?
How do you magic the stress away?
It’s time …
1. Time to acknowledge your responsibility for your situation.
You cannot blame others for where you are because …
- You made the choices that led to the situation you find your self in.
- You allowed the behaviour that you don’t like to continue.
- You failed to take action.
2. Time to sit down quietly and think about this…
If you could make one change in your daily life that would bring a smile to your face, what would it be?
One client said this:
‘I’ve never really focused on what I want to do. I don’t like to rock the boat.’
Well – just one problem –
if he doesn’t rock the boat, nothing will happen. Everything will stay the same…
3. Time to start rocking that boat.
Write down exactly what you want to change.
- I want to be more consistent with my children. Result? Less stress
- I want to stop commuting. Result? Less stress.
- I want to feel valued in my work. Result? Less stress.
- I want to go back to work now the children are at school. Result? Less stress.
- I want to have less to do in my day. Result? Less stress,
- I want to say ‘no’ to having my in-laws for Easter Sunday lunch … again. Guess what? Less stress all round.
4. Time to make a plan and rock that boat.
As soon as you do, the stress will begin to lift.
To sum up …
We are all responsible for where we are today,
and … we are all responsible for where we’ll be tomorrow.
‘You just can’t keep walking away. At some point you have to turn round and face life head on.’
Chris Cleave in his novel – ‘The Other Hand.’
Are you going to rock that boat?
We want to know!