I talk to myself.
It helps me work stuff out.
Stuff like decisions.
Perhaps I need to decide:
- Whether to say goodbye to summer and turn up the heating
- Whether to write that difficult email
- Whether to have fish for dinner
- Whether to use fake tan
- Whether to try online banking
- Whether to adopt a rescue cat
- Whether to change my hairstyle (sorry, male Spinners…)
Or I might have to make bigger decisions like:
- Whether to make that dentist’s appointment
- Whether to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to an invitation to a ball
- Whether to make that awkward phone call
- Whether to spend a whole day sleeping
- Whether to re-organise my garden
- Whether to buy an i-phone
- Whether to get expensive tickets to see James Taylor in concert
Or… even bigger ones:
- Whether to move house
- Whether to leave my job
- Whether to change my car
- Whether to book a solo trip to China
- Whether to take refresher driving lessons
- Whether to accept an invitation to visit South Africa
- Whether to go away for Christmas
In all these decisions, and they’re all real ones I’ve had to make, I relied on my gut feeling, my intuition.
But, I hear you asking, how do you know you made the right decision if you only ‘asked your gut feeling’?
And here’s my answer:
When I’d decided, in every case, I asked myself if I felt relieved.
If I did, then my instinct was right. If I didn’t, then it was wrong.
In every case, I felt relieved about the decision I’d made.
I’ve discovered that my instinct gives me a feeling of calm when I’ve been undecided.
I know from experience (there had to be one advantage to getting older….) that my instinct is always right. It ‘knows’ what’s best for me.
It’s a feeling I get.
A bit spooky, I know, but I suppose another way to put it is, it’s listening with your feelings.
And the more I use this method of making decisions, the more I know my gut instincts work in my favour.
Richard Branson said:
‘I rely far more on gut instinct than researching huge amounts of statistics’.
I don’t know about you, but if it’s good enough for Richard Branson, it’s good enough for me.
Now… I need to make another decision …what to write about next time…
Do you follow your instincts when making decisions?
Do you believe it helps?
Has it ever let you down?