‘I can’t do it!’
‘I’ll never be able to.’
‘I’m rubbish at writing.’
Steven threw down his pencil.
I could see how red his face was.
Tears weren’t far away.
Many years and no doubt many tears later I met his mum in a local restaurant.
‘It’s so good to see you again!’ she beamed.
I listened while she told me with great pride, that Steven had just passed his law degree. A ‘2.1’. A huge achievement for a dyslexic student.
I learnt a lesson that day, a lesson about failure.
Last week I wrote about my first two reasons why Failure is Good For You.
Here are the next two:
Failure is good for you because:
3. It makes you stronger.
Steven had a very hard time at school. Every step along the way was a struggle. Until he discovered the truth that his dyslexia was not his fault. He simply needed to be taught in the way that he could learn. As soon as he believed in himself and his ability things began to go his way. His self-esteem grew. It was a slow process, but he got there. He was determined to succeed, he believed he could, and he did.
4. Failure opens your eyes to the real world.
It seems to be the fashion in some of our schools here in the UK, not to allow a child to ‘fail’ at the annual school sports day.
There must be no winners or losers, just ‘participants’.
How can that be right?
As the child grows he will face many situations in which he has to compete. That’s real life. Surely it’s good to experience not coming first while still young and to learn that,
Hey! Failure’s OK!
Why do we want to protect our children from the real world?
We do them no favours.
They need to grow stronger and a little failure from time to time will help them, in my view.
So… over to you:
- Has failure made you stronger in any way?
- Has failure opened your eyes to anything in the real world?
Do add your comments… you know what to do…
- Dyslexia and Multi Sensory Reading Techniques (brighthub.com)
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