You know you want to.
You worry you’ll upset them.
You want them to go on liking you.
You feel guilty.
You ought to say yes…
But you want to say no…
At first it wasn’t easy.
You made loads of mistakes.
You wondered whether you’d ever ‘get it’.
Sometimes you wanted to give up.
Then, next day, you started practising again.
But the key was:
You were motivated.
You wanted to ‘get it’.
And it’s the same with learning to say no.
Think of situations where you want to say no but it’s not that important if you cave in.
say no (with a smile) to the girl in the perfume department trying to sell you a new fragrance
say no (with a smile down the phone) to a casual coffee invitation but suggest an alternative date to meet
say no (with a smile) when your hairdresser offers you conditioner but you’d rather not have it
say no (with a smile) when your friend invites you to the cinema but it’s not a film you want to see
say no (with a smile) when your mother asks if she can come shopping with you but you’ve planned a rare and precious day to yourself
These may seem trivial examples but they have the same purpose as practising your scales for the piano: they prepare you for the more important no’s later on.
Take every opportunity to practise.
See how many no’s you can fit in before you come back to read about step two on Wednesday!
Meanwhile, please tell us in the comments, about the times you have found to practise and what you said no to.
I’ll do it too!
I’ll start my list right now. I’ll start by saying no to Mittens… she’s waiting by her bowl.
On the other hand… how can I say no to her!
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