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We have a Guest!
I know you’ll all make her welcome and pay her the compliment of leaving some comments.
One sunny afternoon, my hubby and I were driving Downtown and we saw a guy riding a pink girls’ bike.
The guy looked a little unkempt, and seeing him on it piqued my curiosity, so I said, “What in the world is that guy doing on that bike?”
“He probably stole it,” my hubby replied.
“Why would he do that? It’s probably the only bike he could afford; probably got it from a thrift store or something…”
“There you go, always trying to find the good in people. Why can’t you just accept the fact that people aren’t that good? Some little girl is somewhere crying about that bike and here you are making excuses for him.”
“That poor man is probably on his way to work. Maybe he works at a construction site and had no other way to get there.” I quipped back.
“Like I said…” my hubby continued, “You’ve just got to see the good in people…”
Now, neither of us really knew what this guy’s story was, but each of us had created scenarios based on our opinions. We’re probably both wrong, the guy could’ve been riding his daughter’s bike home after getting a tire repaired for all we know… or he really could’ve done something terrible.
But regardless, we could’ve gone on all day creating scenarios about that guy, and no matter what, I would’ve continued to choose the positive side.
Why, you ask?
Because you get what you look for – you look for the good, that’s what you get.
People who insist on focusing only on the bad are more likely to be grumpy and angry all of the time. They tend to believe others are out to get them – when that’s not the case at all.
These people build walls around themselves that they believe will shield them from the bad without realizing that it’s also shielding them from the good.
While they’re trying to protect themselves, they’re missing out on the best in life; the good and the humanity that resides in all of mankind.
Looking for the good in others might seem a little delusional, especially in a world where serial killers run rampant and war is the norm. I’m not pretending those things don’t exist, but I make a conscious choice not let it control my opinions.
I look for the good in people because it helps me to see the good that is within me. It takes the sting away from the fact that I; that none of us can ever be perfect. It allows me to keep my good mood and helps me forget the times people have done me wrong. It’s a far more nourishing way to live.
It’s funny, because people seem to be divided – they are either pessimistic or optimistic about the nature of people and life in general.
What about you?
Are you leaning to one side or another? Do you always notice the bad or the good in others and why?
Header image from cursedthing, post image from woofiegrrl, on Flickr.