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Think the Snow Is A Nuisance? How to Change Your Mind

It’s still here. The snow, I mean. 

I heard this today: ‘It was fun at first. Now it’s just a nuisance.’

OK, I understand it’s difficult getting to the shops, you have to go without milk for a while and the schools are still closed, but this snowy time teaches us a lot about how we can look at life if we feel confident.

Here’s my Positive Spin on a snowy day. 

Snow is like Confidence. It transforms your life.

  • Snow smooths everything out.

Harsh shapes are rounded, spiky bushes are like balls, you can’t see the join between the path and the road.

When you’re confident you feel that your path is smoother. You see the way to diffuse spiky arguments, the differences between people are blurred. You become more tolerant.

  • Snow covers up imperfections.

Street litter is lost under the blanket, muddy patches become clean, every surface is garnished with a sparkle.

When you start to feel confident you find you don’t notice the imperfections in people so much. You focus on their good qualities, you try to see their point of view. You’re more agreeable.

  • Snow turns problems into opportunities.

So… you can’t get the car out of the drive! You have the opportunity to stay in, gaze at the beauty outside and reminisce about winters long ago. You are ‘allowed’ to watch DVD’s by the fire, make soup from those left over veg in the fridge, send friendly emails, and even write Christmas cards.

Confidence brings opportunities too. Instead of fearing changes in your ‘landscape’, you can see  new ways forward, possible new occupations,  new directions for your life.

  • Snow covers up tracks but lets you see fresh ones.

Muddy tracks disappear. The road is smoothed out. But we can see where the birds and animals have been wandering in our garden, under bushes and around trees.

When you learn to be confident (yes, you learn it), you learn to believe that very day is a fresh start. Yesterday has gone. You can’t change what you did/didn’t/do, wish you’d said/not said, the chances you missed. Today is like a fresh fall of snow on your ‘landscape.’ The new tracks you make are up to you.

  • Snow lets you use other people’s tracks.

Trudging up the lane is much easier if others have already made some tracks. It’s firmer, less slippery and you feel bolder as you stride along.

Confidence grows with encouragement, praise and positive feedback as you take steps towards your goals and make changes. Seeking and taking advice and help from others, walking in their tracks,  helps you make decisions.

  • Snowy weather lets you have fun!

It certainly brought out the ‘Inner Child’ in me. The lane was filled with neighbours and their children, all dragging sledges and throwing snowballs. A carrot was fetched for the snowman’s nose and mugs of coffee were passed around.

Confidence does that too. You can let yourself be child-like, try new things, travel to new places, have as much fun as you like.

Like the snow, Confidence transforms the ordinary into the extra-ordinary.

What would you be able to do if you woke up  to find your world covered in the soft blanket of confidence?

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83 Cats Teach Us A Lesson About Being Judgemental

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Maria has 83 cats.   

Yes, I know, it sounds ridiculous but there it is.   

I read it in the paper so it must be true…   

I tried to imagine why someone would do that.   

I started to make judgements about Maria and her lifestyle.   

I wanted to ask her –   

  • Do you ever go away on holiday?
  • What are the vet’s bills like?
  • Did you win the lottery to afford them?
  • Do you live on a farm with lots of land?
  • Do you buy their food in bulk?
  • Do you get it delivered on a lorry?
  • Are they strays?
  • Do you let them have kittens?
  • If not, more vet’s bills!’

    

The words ‘eccentic’, potty, lonely, strange, loony, daft, short sighted, odd, anti-social, came to mind the more I thought about it.   

And then I told myself off.   

What’s it got to do with me?   

Yes, I’m curious about such an unusual way of life, but it isn’t for me to judge.   

I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t want to swap with me, with my one cat, a husband and a tiny cottage, and I certainly wouldn’t want to swap with her.   

Over on the Plinky site  there’s an interesting thread about accepting one another’s differences.   

The writers at Plinky asked us to say how we thought the world could be a better place and accepting differences was high on the list of responses.   

It would be great   

  • if only we could all live and let live a bit more.
  • if only we weren’t so quick to judge harshly.
  • if only we weren’t so arrogant.

And perhaps…   

the words loving, caring, thoughtful, generous, hardworking, selfless, philanthropic and tireless would come to mind when thinking about Maria.   

But I’d still like to talk to her about  life with 83 cats…    

What do you think?   

Are we far too judgemental?   

And does it matter?

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