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Who Wants to Win an Amazing Car and Have £2,000 to Spend?

It was a TV ad on the Breakfast show.

It looked tempting, so tempting that many people  entered this competition. Hard to resist – the chance to show off a fantastic new car and go shopping with £2,000 to spend.

Imagine when the car’s delivered!

I want one of those!

It sits outside in the street or on your drive and everyone stops to admire it. You’re so proud. Can’t wait to take it for a spin. Off you roar, leaving those admiring glances behind, those envious faces wondering how you afforded it. After all, you only just changed last year’s model. They’d love a brand new car, given half the chance.

There’s nothing like the smell and feel of a new car. Leather seats, everything shiny, no finger marks, not even the tiniest scratch.  You stop at the lights and the guy in the older car next to you grins and waves, giving you a thumbs up. You grin back, basking in the sunshine of his envy.

You frown a little as it begins to rain. The auto-wipers do their best but it’s quite a downpour. On the motor-way the traffic’s heavy. Lorries soak you in muddy spray, wooshing past at speed. Reluctantly you slow down, it’s hard to see far ahead in this storm, even with the headlights on. It’s dusk and it’ll soon be dark. As soon as you can, you turn off and head for home.

You put your house key in the lock and call out.

‘I’m home, love!’

You shake the drips from your coat and hang it up.

‘How’s the car, love? Pleased with it?’  She comes to the door to take a look.

‘What a pity it rained, sweetheart. It’s lost its shiny, new look. You’ll have to wash it tomorrow. Still, I suppose it can’t stay ‘new’ for ever! ‘

You’re gutted. It was fantastic having it delivered. And now it’s not new anymore. Looks just like everyone else’s. Muddy, smeary, tyres all spoilt, mats muddy.

But at least you’ve still got that £2,000 to spend…

We all get a ‘high’ from having more ‘stuff’.  It lasts for… well… at least a few minutes… and before long we’re thinking about the next ‘new thing’.  At least that’s how it seems to me sometimes.

I wonder how long the novelty and excitement of  receiving their ‘new stuff’ will last with most children this Christmas…

Is there anything we can do about it?

How can we help our children to be less greedy when many adults are just as bad?

How do we show them that having more ‘stuff’ won’t make them happy?

or will they discover it for themselves…

  • What does happiness mean to you?
  • What has to happen for you to feel happy?
  • Is it a lasting state or is it fleeting?

Do tell us in the comments…

Header image by cursedthing, post image by Kraetzsche Photo, on Flickr



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7 Things I Wish I Could Say To My 7 Year-Old Self (But I Wouldn’t Believe Me…)


Courtesy of Sunset Chaser on Flickr



‘Wait till you grow up! Life will be very different then!’ 

That’s what mum used to say.   

But I’ve got news for all you Spinners…   

She was wrong!   

I was always told I must ‘behave myself’, whatever that meant.   

When visitors came I had to be ‘on my best behaviour.’ And I tried, I really did.   

I had a sneaky feeling that all the fun things would disappear once I was ‘grown up’.   


I’m here to tell you that they haven’t.   


Here are 7 things I wish I could say to my 7 year-old self (but I wouldn’t believe me…)  

1.   It’s OK to hang upside down on the railings and show your knickers.   

Just because someone tells you can’t do something doesn’t mean you won’t be able to do it.   

When you’ve made up your mind to do something – take a course, learn to drive, become a writer, just do it.  Follow your intuition. You’ll be glad you did.   

2.   It’s OK to believe in fairies.   

Your imagination is one of the most exciting gifts you can have. You can travel anywhere, see anything, make up stories, paint pictures, design and invent things and even believe in fairies.   

Whenever I see a  dandelion seed floating in the air I smile, because I’m seeing  a fairy.   

3.   It’s OK to believe that there’s a crock of gold at the end of a rainbow.   

Once you know what you’d like to achieve, today, in a few weeks, in a year, ‘go for it’. It will take hard work, disappointments, highs and lows but when you find your ‘crock of gold’ you’ll feel fantastic.   

And while you’re travelling, you have the beauty of the rainbow always there in front of you to look at.   

4.   It’s OK to adore Marmite sandwiches.   

Just because it’s not to everyone’s taste it doesn’t mean it’s not right for you.   

Choose your own pathway, especially when it’s not the same as other people’s.   

Develop your own tastes, in all aspects of life.   

The Marmite sandwiches in life are not wrong or right, simply different. And ‘different’ is good.   

5.   It’s OK to cry.   

When you’re a child mum might say, ‘ Wipe your tears. There’s no need to cry!’   

Yes! There is.   

Crying is good. It expresses emotions you can’t find the words for. You can cry when you’re happy, sorry, miserable, fed up, afraid, missing someone, excited, surprised.   

I cry most days – just a little.  Or more if I feel like it. No problem.   

6.   It’s OK to believe there’s a monster under your bed.   

 If you believe it’s there, then it’s there.   

It has a name too. It’s called fear and it has enormous eyes.   

But the good news is, that if you’re brave enough to look under your bed and stare the monster in the face, it disappears!   

It’s only while you’re imagining it that it exists.   

Face your fears, and guess what?   

They shrink before your eyes.   

7.   It’s OK to want a cuddle.    

Cuddles make you feel better, even when you’re all ‘grown up’.   

Cuddles come in all sorts of disguises.   

One is called ‘compliments.’  Tell someone they look gorgeous and you’ve given them an invisible cuddle. Another is when you ask for someone’s help or advice.   

Again, it’s an invisible cuddle.   

I’m glad that it’s OK to hang upside down, to believe in fairies, to seek the crock of gold, to adore Marmite sandwiches, to cry, to look for the monster under my bed and  to need cuddles.   

There’s no way I’m going to hide my inner child.   

How about you?   

What would you like to tell your 7-year-old self ?   

 And would you believe you?   

This post is entered for a series by abubakar jamil about the things we wish we’d known earlier in our lives.  The series can be seen at this site.  


Header image courtesy of abyreed on Flickr.


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