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Think the Snow Is A Nuisance? How to Change Your Mind

It’s still here. The snow, I mean. 

I heard this today: ‘It was fun at first. Now it’s just a nuisance.’

OK, I understand it’s difficult getting to the shops, you have to go without milk for a while and the schools are still closed, but this snowy time teaches us a lot about how we can look at life if we feel confident.

Here’s my Positive Spin on a snowy day. 

Snow is like Confidence. It transforms your life.

  • Snow smooths everything out.

Harsh shapes are rounded, spiky bushes are like balls, you can’t see the join between the path and the road.

When you’re confident you feel that your path is smoother. You see the way to diffuse spiky arguments, the differences between people are blurred. You become more tolerant.

  • Snow covers up imperfections.

Street litter is lost under the blanket, muddy patches become clean, every surface is garnished with a sparkle.

When you start to feel confident you find you don’t notice the imperfections in people so much. You focus on their good qualities, you try to see their point of view. You’re more agreeable.

  • Snow turns problems into opportunities.

So… you can’t get the car out of the drive! You have the opportunity to stay in, gaze at the beauty outside and reminisce about winters long ago. You are ‘allowed’ to watch DVD’s by the fire, make soup from those left over veg in the fridge, send friendly emails, and even write Christmas cards.

Confidence brings opportunities too. Instead of fearing changes in your ‘landscape’, you can see  new ways forward, possible new occupations,  new directions for your life.

  • Snow covers up tracks but lets you see fresh ones.

Muddy tracks disappear. The road is smoothed out. But we can see where the birds and animals have been wandering in our garden, under bushes and around trees.

When you learn to be confident (yes, you learn it), you learn to believe that very day is a fresh start. Yesterday has gone. You can’t change what you did/didn’t/do, wish you’d said/not said, the chances you missed. Today is like a fresh fall of snow on your ‘landscape.’ The new tracks you make are up to you.

  • Snow lets you use other people’s tracks.

Trudging up the lane is much easier if others have already made some tracks. It’s firmer, less slippery and you feel bolder as you stride along.

Confidence grows with encouragement, praise and positive feedback as you take steps towards your goals and make changes. Seeking and taking advice and help from others, walking in their tracks,  helps you make decisions.

  • Snowy weather lets you have fun!

It certainly brought out the ‘Inner Child’ in me. The lane was filled with neighbours and their children, all dragging sledges and throwing snowballs. A carrot was fetched for the snowman’s nose and mugs of coffee were passed around.

Confidence does that too. You can let yourself be child-like, try new things, travel to new places, have as much fun as you like.

Like the snow, Confidence transforms the ordinary into the extra-ordinary.

What would you be able to do if you woke up  to find your world covered in the soft blanket of confidence?

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Day 31 – 31 Ways …

to be confident in 5 words or less!

 It’s the final day of our Spring into Sunshine Challenge.

The sun is out and I hope you’re all feeling a lot more confident!

I’ve borrowed this post idea from over at Marc and Angel’s blog .

Here are my 31 Ways to Be Confident in 5 words or less!

  1. Specify your area for improvement.
  2. Value your past achievements.
  3. Take one small action today.
  4. Let light into your life.
  5. Notice your ‘good stuff’.
  6. Think about your tracks.
  7. Leave tracks you’re proud of.
  8. Give positive feedback.
  9. Persistence – the key to success.
  10. ‘Radiators’ good, ‘drains’ bad.
  11. Leave foolish beliefs behind.
  12. Worth achieving? Worth waiting!
  13. Stuck? Ask for help.
  14. Eat some chocolate!
  15. Do the best you can.
  16. Review progress.
  17. Practise receiving compliments.
  18. Build your Circle of Confidence.
  19. Remember – perfection doesn’t exist.
  20. Listen to your instincts.
  21. Set realistic goals.
  22. Try a fresh perspective.
  23. There’s help out there.
  24. Be passionate about your goal.
  25. No-one’s better, simply different.
  26. Switch off noise, and listen!
  27. Find your ‘confident voice’.
  28. Can’t change it? Adjust!
  29. Show the real you.
  30. Start your own ‘river’.
  31. Look forward with renewed confidence!

 

WOW! 

Thanks for staying the course!

Now…

Ready for  TODAY’S TASK?

First, read through the 31 ways once more.

Now…

  • Which were the most useful to you? Tell us, in the ‘Leave a Reply’  box.
  • What can you add to the list?
  • Let’s try to make that list as long as we can and help one another in this Confidence Quest.

‘It’s never too late to turn your life around.’

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Day 16- 15 Steps you’ve taken to Becoming More Confident!

 Congratulations! 

We’re half way though my Spring into Sunshine Challenge.

Time to sit back for a moment and  look at what you’ve achieved!

Here are the 15 steps you’ve taken…

 

  1. You PREPARED – you decided where you’d like to be in 31 days time.
  2. You MADE A PLAN to prevent you feeling too daunted by the task. Oh yes, and I hope you ate some Maltesers.
  3. You sewed some SEEDS – you took one small action towards seeing your goal in bloom.
  4. You let in some LIGHT – a fresh approach brings renewed optimism.
  5. You NOTICED all the ‘good stuff’ about you.
  6. You looked back at your TRACKS – you thought about how you’d like to be perceived.
  7. You considered how your TRACKS can make a difference to someone’s day.
  8. You thought about the need to give and receive POSITIVE FEEDBACK to build confidence.
  9. You chose to be PERSISTENT – like my tattoo!
  10. You decided to try to see more of the RADIATORS in your life and not to allow the DRAINS to sap your confidence.
  11. You chose to leave your APRIL FOOLISH beliefs behind.
  12. You decided to try to be more PATIENT and not to expect instant results.
  13. You decided to ASK FOR HELP and not to feel silly about it.
  14. You gave yourself some REWARDS!
  15. You resolved to try not to compare yourself with others – to simply do the BEST YOU CAN.

 WOW! I hope you’re as impressed as I am!

So… what do you think? What was the most helpful post for you so far?

Do leave a Reply to tell me so I can write more posts on that theme.

Remember this – ‘We must become the change we want to see.’ Ghandi.

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Day 7 – Your Tracks May Not Be Washed Away……

‘There’s someone at the door!’

I’d been in the garden and felt really scruffy in my gardening gear, not exactly in the mood for a visitor.

A lady stood on the step and grinned at me.

I wasn’t sure I recognised her but she seemed to know me.

‘I’m Susan’s mum!’ she said. 

As soon as I heard the name I easily remembered her daughter. She’d been a student of mine several years ago, when I taught dyslexic students at my home.

‘Susan wanted me to see if you still lived here! She’s in her final year at Uni now and wanted you to know how well she’s doing.’

I invited her in and she told me all about her daughter, and how she wanted to take a course in teaching dyslexic students, as well as completing her degree course.

I was amazed. This lady had come out of her way especially to find me.

As I walked with her to her car she said, ‘If it hadn’t been for you and all the confidence you gave Susan, she would never have got where she is today.’

I’m sure that’s not completely true. Susan was highly motivated to do well,  but it made me realise that the tracks I made all those years ago had not washed away, like footsteps in the sand.

TODAY’S TASK

  • Think again about the ‘tracks’ you leave.  They might leave their impression for longer than you think.
  • Just a few thoughtful words can make someone’s day.
  • Next time you speak to someone, leave  a ‘track ‘you can be proud of.

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Day 6 – Making tracks – as your Confidence grows

Walking round the lane this morning I came across this –

I was thinking about yesterday’s post about noticing the ‘good stuff’, (Day 5),  and I got to musing again, as I do.  I wondered who’d left these muddy tracks. Was it a tractor? Who was the driver? Would I like her/him? What kind of person had left these tracks?

As I walked away, I wondered about the ‘tracks’ I’ve left for others to see, what impressions people get when they meet me. 

And is it an impression I’m pleased to leave?

TODAY’S TASK

Think about the  ‘tracks’ you leave.

How do you want to be perceived? Will people notice your growing confidence?

Try these, and add your own –

  • Next time the phone rings, smile down the phone.  Leave a friendly ‘track.’
  • Say ‘thankyou’ next time someone is thoughtful or kind.
  • Leave a ‘tip’ for good service in a restaurant
  • When you pass a mirror, decide what kind of person is looking back.
  • When you’re waiting at a busy junction, let 3 drivers out first.

How many confident tracks can you leave this weekend?

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